Why women have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on ever since millennium. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with troubles, cause sorrow, and other problems. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, money, age difference, spiritual education, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discteet married dating.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek an extramarital affair. I suppose generally though it is just the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us flee the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to turn the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos society has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but the public too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your spouse or anyone else? You would need to reduce the hazard you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest grouping, gigantic actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they feel comfortable in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to consider. Your funds are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair at times solves the trouble while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a regular groung I fear. One or the other, generally the gentleman is sexually neglecting his lady for a tones of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be caring is gone, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have simply grown apart, our general interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.